I have written on Scott’s Eclectic Universe that all of us have only a handful (maybe two) of real best friends and that all of the other people we know are acquaintances. Here are seven ways I just brainstormed in a few minutes about how to be a real best friend to your real best friends:
- Understand that a friendship is like a marriage. It requires total commitment, patience, understanding, forgiveness, unselfishness on your part, and hard work.
- Put your friends before yourself. I would take the place of my best friends in front of a screaming locomotive.
- Always encourage your friends’ aspirations, ideas, beliefs, and talents.
- We all need our space—a little breathing room—from time to time. Know when to step away from your friends to give them that needed space.
- If you are not there (even once) the second a friend has a problem you have dropped the ball. You need to immediately apologize and make the situation right with your friend and promise to never let him/her down again.
- Forevermore, be a sounding board—sometimes you need to not say a word and just be something your friends can yell at so they can vent.
- Never be afraid to let your friends know when they have let you down. It is the only way your friendship will grow and get beyond difficulties and support is a two-way street.